SPIRITUALITAS SEHAT VS TERGANGGU

Sebagian tulisan ini dikutip dari Kompas Minggu,7 September (Ruang Psikologi)

Dikagetkan oleh sebuah kelompok yang brutal menyerang,menhancurkan,dan membunuh siapa pun yang dianggapnya berbeda dengan alirannya.

Pertanyaannya apakah kelompok ini spiritualitas atau ideologi atau kedua-duanya?

Bagaimana cara membedakan antara spiritualitas sehat dan gangguan?

Harus dipahami terlebih dahulu apa arti spiritualitas. Spiritualitas adalah   cara sederhana sebagai "perasaan, pikiran, dan perilaku yang menyertai pengalaman dan pencarian, yang dianggap individu sebagai melampaui pengalaman material biasa atau suci""

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Upaya untuk menjalin hubungan dengan suatu keberadaan yang jauh lebih tinggi , yang melampaui keteriktan dengan agama, yang memberikan jawaban mengenai "Yang Tak Terhingga".

Membedakan antara spiritualitas yang "terganggu" dan yang "sehat"
Perlu bercermin dalam diri sendiri ,kegiatan yang dipengaruhi oleh keyakinan secara positif.  Apakah pemikiran dan praktik berkeyaninan itu sudah dapat dianggap "terganggu" atau tidak dapat kita renungkan beberapa pertanyaan berikut ini:

Apakah kegiatan itu membangun jembatan atau justru hambatan atau permusuhan dengan orang atau kelompok lain?

Apakah menguatkan atau melemahkan perasaan dasar saling terhubung dan kepercayaan (trust) di alam raya?

Apakah mampu mengelola energi-energi vital,khususnya seks dan agresi secara konstruktif dan bertanggung jawab,atau sebaliknya, secara merugikan atau dengan cara represif?

APakah merangsang atau justru menghambat pertumbuhan kebebasan diri dan tanggung jawab  personal? Apakah menumbuhkan hubung yang matang dengan tokoh otoritas, apakah menumbuhkan kedewasaan suara hati?

Apakah menyediakan cara-cara yang efektif, atau sebaliknya cara-cara yang memperdaya dalam membantu manusia bergerak dari perasaan bersalah dan marah menuju pemaafan?  Apakah menyediakan pedoman etis yang universal, atau justru menenkankan hal-hal tidak penting dan supervisial saja. Apakah tujuan utamanya pada hal-hal yang dipermukaan atau hal-hal yang terdalam dari kemanusiaan.

Apakah mempersulit atau memudahkan kemampuan untuk menikmati hidup? Apakah membantu idnividu untuk menghargai berbagai dimensi kehidupan atau justru menurunkan penghargaan terhadap kehidupan?

Apakah menguatkan pengingkaran dalam mengahdapi realitas atau sebaliknya membantu kita bersikap lebih jujur menghadapi relaitas? Apakah menumbuhkan sikap yang terlalu menyerderhanakan masalah atau menumbuhkan kompleksitas kehidupan?

Kesimpulan:
Manusia yang memiliki spiritualitas yang sehat juga akan mengembangkan ideologi yang "sehat". Ideologi yang tidak memusuhi kelompok lain, ideologi yang menghindarikan diri dari pembenaran kekerasan, ideologi yang mampu menerima keragaman.

 Gangguan jiwa spektrum sangat luas, sedikit yang tergolong parah dan sepenuhnya tidak mampu berkontak dengan realitas. Lagi pula yang harus diutamakan adalah rasa aman dan nyaman bermasyarakat dan kedaultan negara.

Keragaman adalah fitra kehidupan sehingga sejak dini mungkin generasi muda perlu dibantu untuk menghormati dan membesarkan bangsa di atas keragaman yang atas.

The Law of Least Effort from Lao Tzu ..

Acceptance

There are three components to the Law of Least Effort -- three things you can do to put this principle of "do less and accomplish more" into action. The first component is acceptance. Acceptance simply means that you make a commitment: "Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur." 

This means I will know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. This moment -- the one you're experiencing right now -- is the culmination of all the moments you have experienced in the past. This moment is as it is because the entire universe is as it is.

When you struggle against this moment, you're actually struggling against the entire universe. Instead, you can make the decision that today you will not struggle against the whole universe by struggling against this moment. This means that your acceptance of this moment is total and complete. You accept things as they are, not as you wish they were in this moment. This is important to understand. You can wish for things in the future to be different, but in this moment you have to accept things as they are.

When you feel frustrated or upset by a person or a situation, remember that you are not reacting to the person or the situation, but to your feelings about the person or the situation. These are your feelings, and your feelings are not someone else's fault. When you recognize and understand this completely, you are ready to take responsibility for how you feel and to change it. And if you can accept things as they are, you are ready to take responsibility for your situation and for all the events you see as problems.

Responsibility

This leads us to the second component of the Law of Least Effort: responsibility. What does responsibility mean? Responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for your situation, including yourself. Having accepted this circumstance, this event, this problem, responsibility then means the ability to have a creative response to the situation as it is now. All problems contain the seeds of opportunity, and this awareness allows you to take the moment and transform it to a better situation or thing.

Once you do this, every so-called upsetting situation will become an opportunity for the creation of something new and beautiful, and every so-called tormentor or tyrant will become your teacher. Reality is an interpretation. And if you choose to interpret reality in this way, you will have many teachers around you, and many opportunities to evolve.

Whenever confronted by a tyrant, tormentor, teacher, friend, or foe (they all mean the same thing) remind yourself, "This moment is as it should be." Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.

Defenselessness

The third component of the Law of Least Effort is defenselessness, which means that your awareness is established in defenselessness, and you have relinquished the need to convince or persuade others of your point of view. If you observe people around you, you'll see that they spend ninety-nine percent of their time defending their points of view. If you just relinquish the need to defend your point of view, you will in that relinquishment, gain access to enormous amounts of energy that have been previously wasted.

When you become defensive, blame others, and do not accept and surrender to the moment, your life meets resistance. Any time you encounter resistance, recognize that if you force the situation, the resistance will only increase. You don't want to stand rigid like a tall oak that cracks and collapses in the storm. Instead, you want to be flexible, like a reed that bends with the storm and survives.

Completely desist from defending your point of view. When you have no point to defend, you do not allow the birth of an argument. If you do this consistently -- if you stop fighting and resisting -- you will fully experience the present, which is a gift. Someone once told me, "The past is history, the future is a mystery, and this moment is a gift. That is why this moment is called 'the present'."

If you embrace the present and become one with it, and merge with it, you will experience a fire, a glow, a sparkle of ecstasy throbbing in every living sentient being. As you begin to experience this exultation of spirit in everything that is alive, as you become intimate with it, joy will be born within you, and you will drop the terrible burdens and encumbrances of defensiveness, resentment, and hurtfulness. Only then will you become lighthearted, carefree, joyous, and free.

In this joyful, simple freedom, you will know without any doubt in your heart that what you want is available to you whenever you want it, because your want will be from the level of happiness, not from the level of anxiety or fear. You do not need to justify; simply declare your intent to yourself, and you will experience fulfillment, delight, joy, freedom, and autonomy in every moment of your life.

Make a commitment to follow the path of no resistance. This is the path through which nature's intelligence unfolds spontaneously, without friction or effort. When you have the exquisite combination of acceptance, responsibility, and defenselessness, you will experience life flowing with effortless ease.

When you remain open to all points of view -- not rigidly attached to only one -- your dreams and desires will flow with nature's desires. Then you can release your intentions, without attachment, and just wait for the appropriate season for your desires to blossom into reality. You can be sure that when the season is right, your desires will manifest. 

This is the Law of Least Effort.